Saturday, August 11, 2007
LOVE! What, then, is the elusive thing called"Love" that everyone so desperatelyneeds? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome?But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome"when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love. It isbetter known as "Infatuation" , and there is avast difference between it and reallove. Enumerated here below are the differences.Find out if you are really in love and not just infatuated.Infatuation -Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuationis just love of emotion. Real lovethough, is love of devotion. Only thee motions are affected in infatuation,but in real love both the Emotions andthe Will are involved. Next, a person"fall into" infatuation, but "growsinto" real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation. It is based totally on physical attraction; Often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.Also remember, never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself andyour "feelings" than it is in the other person.Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary,there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.Love - Now you understand what is infatuation, let us now go on to discuss about Love.
1.Love is Patient -The word translated "patient"means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of her shell,if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding. Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love,however, Love is willing to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at arate that is satisfactory to both parties.
2.Love is Kind -Love seeks to encourage and buildup on others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, i.e. Compliment one another,magnify the other's strength, Listen toone another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make eachother feel that what each says is important, etc
.3.Love is not Jealous -Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!" Often, one person wants tototally possess the other and torestrict her relationships with others.
4.Love is not to Brag -Love is not a windbag and is notanxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalthimself. Others will exalt him.
5.Love is not Arrogant -Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky or stuck up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude .Sometimes, a guy may come across to agirl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanor implies,"You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you". Of course this is not love.
6.Love always Covers -This word cover means to pass overin silence, to keep confidential. Loveis patient with faults of others. It doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present even when it knows the other is not perfect.
7.Love always Perseveres -Love always stands its ground and holds out . It will outlast anything.Itwill even love on the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses
.8.Love is not Provoked -This means that love has a longfuse. It does not become irritated andangry. It is not easily offended. Love does not seek its own. This is the heartof love. Love is other-centered notself-centered. Love says, "I love you,Iwant to give you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"
9.Love does not act Unbecomingly -This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, orindecently. It does not embarras so thers by its actions. It is characterized bytact and sensitivity. This also meansthat love should have good manners. Besure to do little things like openingdoors for your girl or offering heryourarm when you walk together.10.Love is Forgiving -Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he isnot exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn't remain resentful
